One Character Flaw You Must Overcome To Survive
By: Tom Chatham
There are many character flaws that humans suffer from. Some are just inconveniences while others can mean the difference between mere survival and prosperity. Many people go through life in a never ending series of failures and can never understand why. Rather than look at their actions and make an objective determination of what went wrong, they would rather go on thinking it was not their fault for the failure.
As a smart man once said, doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. But this is exactly what most people do on a daily basis. It can be obvious to someone looking at them from the outside but is not obvious to the person themselves.
One of the character flaws people suffer from can be described by many different names. You might call it normalcy bias or procrastination but it amounts to the same thing. You fail to do something you should do based on the current information available to you. This may simply mean you fail to take advantage of a job opportunity, make a good investment or it could be something that spirals out of control and affects your whole future.
Information is your reality check on life. Just like intelligence in a war zone, it can be acted on or dismissed. What you do with it will determine your outcome in the future. A piece of information that you find contrary to your prevailing feelings does not make it true any more than it makes it irrelevant. What it does mean is you should investigate it further and determine what effect it will have on your future plans.
Here is one example. You have a few thousand dollars saved up for emergencies. You have a family to care for and a mortgage and car loans to take care of. The payment of all your monthly bills require the combined income of you and your spouse. One or both of you lose your job and have difficulty finding another. You now have hard facts in front of you to process.
You cannot pay all of your monthly bills with the current income. Even if you reduce your expenses you still will not have enough money coming in to cover the basics. You have no choice but to dip into your emergency cash to make up the difference. The amount of cash reserves will keep your bills paid up for several months before you run out of cash. Here is the disconnect that most people have.
What will you do after the cash runs out? That is the question most people refuse to ask themselves and the reality they refuse to look at. Most people will run things out until they have no resources left to control their future. Only then will they face the reality they were faced with several months before. They just assume and hope something will happen that corrects their problems before they run out of money.
Rather than investigating the job market and accepting the reality that they may not find another job quickly and making plans to deal with that reality, they just continue life as normal until time and money runs out for them. Unfortunately this hypothetical situation has become reality for millions of Americans.
What could they have done? There are many things they should have considered before their financial resources ran out. They could have looked at selling their house and cars and downsizing to make their remaining income sufficient to live on. They could have looked at job opportunities in other cities. They may have determined that moving in with relatives for a short while would be the best solution.
In an extreme case of job loss they may have determined that buying a travel trailer or RV to live in and some basic supplies to live on for several months would be the best way to avoid possible homelessness. An objective evaluation of their circumstances would have provided a realistic look at what they were facing but many will forgo this approach to feel normal as long as possible and will then suffer terribly for that lack of foresight.
This is one character flaw in humans that allows them to dismiss possible danger and walk off a cliff with both eyes open. The lesson here is simple. We must constantly question and evaluate our situation and accept those things we want to dismiss just because they make us feel uncomfortable. Regardless of how you want the future to play out, you must always treat reality with the attention it deserves. You can ignore reality, but you cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.